Thoughts and a question about routine

 **We’ve had lots of visitors this week which has been fun. Ivy even met her Great Granny and Great Auntie for the first time!

** We took Ivy out in her new carrier for the first time today. She slept for the entire time and we enjoyed being able to go for a proper walk without the pram to see some autumness. Anyone else got a Baby Bjorn?

** I had my hair chopped really short yesterday. I don’t have much time to style it anymore and it’s been driving me mad. I’m not sure if I like it yet but I don’t really care as long as it’s out of my face! It was also nice to go to the salon by myself – it was the first thing I’ve done for me since Ivy was born. I practically fell asleep when she was washing my hair!

** You know my Grey’s Anatomy obsession? I’ve watched over 80 episodes in three weeks whilst nursing! I’m pretty sure I could assist at a brain surgery if I wanted to. 

** Okay – so I have questions about getting your baby into routine. I’m trying to get Ivy into a routine because I’m too much of an ordered person to have no idea how the day is going to pan out. She’s in a pretty good feeding routine anyway but morning and afternoon naps are a bit haphazard. Lots of people have told me to enjoy newborn snuggles while I can (and I am) but it would be lovely to be able to put her down in the morning so I can get on with chores without her screaming. Is 6 weeks too young to expect her to have a regular nap? Is she too young to settle herself? Should I just leave her to cry it out?

Also – she’s pretty good at going to sleep in her basket from around 7-8pm and then wakes up for a feed about 1am and 6am. We’ve got a book that suggests you put them down about 7pm and feed again at 11pm and then hope they sleep through until morning. The first day we tried putting her in her basket to sleep at 7pm (rather than holding her downstairs and hoping she’d sleep) she was fast asleep at 11pm and I had to wake her but then she woke up again at 1am anyway. Last night I was a bit late in feeding her so didn’t bother waking her up at 11pm and she slept through until 1am without a feed.  What should I do? I normally go to bed early and so waking up for an 11pm feed is a chore if she doesn’t need it but it seems unlikely that she’ll sleep through the (proper) night without some sort of top-up after her 6pm feed.
Help! What do you think?

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  1. we had philip sleeping through the night at 8 weeks. We would give him a bath first then a feed with the tiniest bit of baby rice very milked down. He went from 7pm till 7am maybe 8am. As for naps that is entirely up to what you feel like doing. I'd put him for a nap after lunch he'd sleep for a few hours then went to bed. I hope this helps but do what you feel is right

  2. The book I read and used and loved and had great success with and recommend to everyone (can you tell it saved my sanity!?!?) is On Becoming Babywise. Talks a lot about routines. And no, 6 weeks isn't too early for routine. My second was on routine by 1 week old.

    As for the nighttime... I say if she is going to sleep through that 11:00 feeding then sleep it is. :)

    Baby carriers are the best! Nothing like being able to use both your hands again haha!

  3. Babies love routine - but it has to be a routine that suits both of you and all babies are different .. in terms of feeding night feeds help stimulate milk and at 6 weeks her tummy will not take enough milk to take her through the night - breast milk that is - formula babies sleep through easier because the milk contains additional fat. I reckon the pattern she is following is not a bad one 1 and 6 does give you a decent block of sleep so I would let her settle with that.She isn't a robot you can't program her but you can establish routines you just need to accept that these may not match up with your plans. Rebecca we hardly put down in the early days and she would always be cuddled to sleep ( our issues not hers!)it took a long time to get her used to going to sleep by herself - we used gradual withdrawal - letting her cry it out didn't work for us because a) it was too distressing and b) within a few minutes she would throw up - change her change bed more washing ... and she got the cuddles anyway! With Sophie we discovered that she was much better being left to get on with it - couldn't stop her crying tried everything then in dispair stuck her in her cot - stopped crying went to sleep!!! - we would give ours a bath about 7 then put them down upstairs in their cot stay with them till they went off. I would say follow your instincts as you discover Ivy's temperment you will work out what works for you.
    Love su

  4. I'm going to go out on a limb and disagree with most authors of baby care books. I am not trying to sound like a know-it-all, but I do know that no book author ever mothered "MY" children. The authors can only tell you what worked for them and their clients, and they can only give general advice. Take it all with a grain of salt and figure out what works best for your own family. I don't mean to say that you shouldn't read baby care books for ideas that you might like to implement, but we are all unique by God's design, and there is no cookie-cutter answer for how to establish a family routine/rhythm.

    My first baby was a 4 lb. preemie, so there was no way that her tummy could ever hold enough milk to keep her sleeping happily all night long. She also had a very sensitive stomach, and I had to be careful what I ate so I didn't pass along anything into my milk that set her off. She was five months old before she first slept through the night.

    My second baby was constantly, I mean CONSTANTLY hungry. I was much older when he was born, there is a 15 year age difference between my first two babies. I am a big breastmilk proponent, but I knew that I just wasn't giving him all he needed. So I supplemented with formula. When my doctors found out, they were visibly upset and tried to lecture me about the benefits of breastfeeding, which I already knew from my first baby. But I very firmly told them, "My baby is hungry. I WILL feed him." And he's turned out to be a very healthy little boy. So even trained doctors will give you the advice they think is best, but it's ultimately YOUR decision what you decide to do. Don't let anyone make you feel like you're not "doing it right."

    My third baby for some reason got more than much more than enough milk from me. And he was 14.5 months old before I could get that kid weaned! He's nearly 2.5 now, and even though he doesn't regularly sleep through the night, it is getting better. I think the Lord was chastising me that I was worshiping a full night's sleep, and not relying on HIS grace and HIS strength to get me through each day. So once I resigned myself to the fact that I needed God's strength and not my own, it was as if my youngest son miraculously started sleeping better.

    I just started following your blog, and I hope I'm not intruding with unsolicited advice. I really just want to encourage you that you're probably doing better than you think you are. First babies are always hardest I think, because it's the first time and you're trying to figure it all out at once. But all Moms are just trying to figure it out as we go along. None of us knows everything. People will often give you unwanted advice, but try to remember that it's well-intentioned. And if it works for you, great! If not, pray for the Lord to give you His wisdom.

    PS. Your little Ivy is sooooo cute! I had a baby carrier like yours, and it was wonderful! I used it practically everywhere. Sometimes I even used it at home, so my kids would stay happy and snuggled while I got my chores done.

  5. I haven't had my baby yet so I can't help you but please let us know what advice works for you! Like the new hair cut!! Thanks for linking up for Mommy Moments Blog Hop with us!

  6. No advice...I just wanted to say that your photos are beautiful. Thanks for sharing them. Bless you.

  7. Ivy is adorable and that photo of the path is stunning. I wish I could offer advice on sleeping/feeding schedules, but I have twins who never stuck to a schedule. Good luck! The first couple months are hardest, but it gets better soon. I promise!

  8. A friend of mine recommended something called 'dream feeding', where you put them to bed at say 7ish, then when you go to bed at 10.30/11ish, pick the baby up, and give them a feed while they are still asleep. When I first tried this, I was surprised that he didn't wake up when I took him out of his bed and also that he would latch on and feed easily, even though he was asleep. We're still working on getting him to sleep through the night but have a good evening routine involving a bath and then a feed in the dimly lit bedroom; he's 15 weeks now.