9.8.12

Project: Organise - The Introduction

I think I’m nesting.
Either that or I’m subconsciously trying to deal with all our current uncertainty and stress by making sure every part of my home is obsessively tidied and organised.
{A pregnant lady on hands and knees crazily scrubbing her bathroom grouting is not a pretty sight I can assure you.}
Whatever the reason, I’ve been thinking a lot about working in the home recently.
I’ve only got two more working days before I’m off on maternity leave and my life as a stay-at-home-mother begins (is it really that soon?!). In a way it’s a dream come true; I’m one step closer to being a full time Mummy and Vicar’s wife, but our culture seems to put so much emphasis on working outside of the home that it’s also a bit scary. Will I suddenly lose all identity and worth when I become “Mum?”
In complete contrast to society the bible puts great significance and honour on being a Godly wife and mother and running an ordered home. But what does this actually mean in practice?
Firstly, it doesn’t mean being fanatically house-proud and having a pantry that Pinterest could be proud of.
In Titus 2 young women are encouraged to “love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands”. Furthermore in 1 Timothy 5 we see the requirements that a widow should have fulfilled throughout her life. She should have been “faithful to her husband, and well known for her good deeds, such as bringing up children, showing hospitality, washing the feet of the Lord’s people, helping those in trouble and devoting herself to all kinds of good deeds.”


I actually found this Timothy verse incredibly helpful. Yes, the bible advocates a mother to care for her children and home, but it doesn’t mean she has to be chained to the kitchen sink.
Have you read the description of the wife in Proverbs 31? Look at how many actions of this highly acclaimed woman take place outside of the home and how many different skills she has and uses. She even has servants to help her around the house! Not quite the picture of the subservient, frazzled, only-good-for-doing-the-dishes housewife often pictured when people talk about a stay-at-home mother.
I guess I’m blessed in that I actually get a great deal of satisfaction from making sure my home is in order. I like creating a welcoming place which is a haven for my husband and for visitors, but these verses also highlight the attitudes that should be behind having an ordered home:
It’s all about love and relationship.
Look at the requirements for widows again. I don’t see anything about ‘keep you house spotless to impress the neighbours’ on there. All of the actions are about caring for people and showing God’s love.
So where does an ordered and organised home come into it? Surely if we’re off gallivanting helping the poor we won’t have time to keep our own laundry in check? Does it really matter?
Well, our homes are incredible gifts which can be used to complete some of those ‘good deeds’ and in my experience keeping things simple and organised makes things quicker, easier and less stressful which in turn gives you more time for people.
Are you able to say you:
1.       Can quickly find things when you need them?
2.       Feel as though you are being a good steward with you time?
3.       Have a general sense of peace and calm?
If not, then stick around! Over the next couple of weeks I’m going to be concentrating on a blog series about organising your home and making some of those oh-so-boring chores just a little bit easier.
I might sound like I’m putting myself out there as some sort of cleaning guru – I’m really not! It’s just a really good way for me to collect together some of the information and inspiration I’ve found recently and to remember to try and keep things under control when the baby is born and bedlam ensues! I’d love it if you would stick around and offer your advice too.

Are you in?

2 comments:

  1. I love this post, Rachel!!
    My dream is to become a SAHM and be a housewife/mom full time. But at the same time I feel guilty and worthless because of all that pressure from our society.
    Right now I'm working as a photographer to save money so that in the near future we can afford having a baby, living with 1 salary and me staying at home.

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  2. I'm looking forward to your future posts on this topic!! You've given a lot of good thoughts here.

    Congratulations on being so close to your career switch!! I think being a stay-at-home-mother is the most ideal job. In my humble opinion, you are not losing your identity...you are gaining a whole new one...and one that is far better than any identity found in a job behind a desk or wherever it may have been.

    Have fun!!!

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